Throughout my life I’ve realized how much loyalty means to me. I have grown up watching my parent’s relationship which has been the definition of loyalty. Through thick and thin, I’ve always seen my mom by my dad’s side and my dad by my mom’s side. It created a desire in me to be a loyal
I began praying to God for a way to get out of this trap.
As a freshman in college, Satan used a person in my life to distort the meaning of loyalty. She
I continued my friendship with her because she made me happy, paid attention to me and made me feel like I was “somebody.” Little did I know this was just a tool Satan was using
I wish I could say that this was the only story I had of leaving a relationship feeling like I was a victim. That simply is not the case. Time after time I’ve allowed my decisions to destroy me by allowing people to take advantage of my loyalty. I have let many people tell me who I am, what I should do and what I should be—and I listened. I actually believed that people had a better insight about what my future should be than I did myself. I felt confined to the lightly spoken words of others.
You see, I am loyal to a fault.
When I make a friend, they have me for life. They probably don’t know that, but the fact is, even after they have moved on, I still think about them. Even if we left off on bad terms, I still feel tied to them somehow. I’m really drawn to people and I love meeting
While others had moved on with their lives doing what God gave them the ability to do, I was left behind, feeling trapped and trying
Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.Romans 12:21
I do believe that every person we come across shapes and forms our life for the better. Either the relationship thrives or we learn our lesson! My ultimate goal is to be like Him, because He is the One I want to make happy. You can never go wrong being loyal to Jesus. He is the only One who can give you true happiness.
Other things I learned
- Set boundaries
- It’s okay to disagree
Only I know God’s will for my life
- I can have an opinion
- It’s impossible to please everyone
- Validation only comes through Christ
Decisions become easier, when your will to please God outweighs your will to please others
One final thing I have learned from my past is that I need to be fiercely loyal to myself. Many people will look at that phrase in disgust, but I’m not telling you to be selfish or only think of yourself. What I am saying is that I can’t be of use to anyone until I’m a help to myself. I’ve been through this cycle so many times hoping for different results. I have come to realize that if I want to make an impact on this world I must first change myself.
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Taking care of your body, your wellness, and your emotions is not selfish. Why? Because when you take care of yourself, you are taking care of the temple of the Holy Spirit. God has granted you the job of self care for His sake. You are a tool of the Holy Ghost that can be used for His will. But if you damage that tool by being loyal to a fault and running yourself into the ground for the sake of others, then God cannot use you effectively. You cannot help others, if you don’t feed yourself spiritually, mentally and